A rather nice talk show, in which the question that is asked is: Can women really have it all? The pertinent questions in this talk are:
--> What is the definition of ''have it all'' ? Whose "have it all'' do we really aim for?
--> Is it true that all women will find fulfillment in a high-profile career and a good salary?
--> Is there something mistaken in the concept of ''women liberation'' and ''women rights'' ?
--> Has ''gender equality'' actually liberated a woman or pressured her more?
and more.. !
My take on the issue is this: Women should carefully assess their circumstances, and then make decisions. Making sweeping plans about either hi-fi careers, or anything else really ... makes no sense. One doesn't know what's coming the next day. So its best to be prepared for everything...
Like, the best bet would be to concentrate on a nice education - so much so, that you can easily work if its necessary. If its not necessary (financially), and you don't feel like working, Islam has put no obligation on you to work.
But if you feel like working, and have a family, then obviously, family comes first and the work comes second... It makes no sense to have babies, only to put them hurriedly away in day care centers, (or day care centers of corporations), to be looked after by ''nannies'' - and work full day and come home hassled and worn out, facing even more worries about the home and of course, kids!!
I know this lady, who I rather admired, for her ambition. She was heck ambitious, and was teaching and all. Then she got married and had a kid. The kid totally changed her outlook... She left work, looked after the lil cutie, and then er, dunno what happened to her thinking.. somehow, she went all ambitious again!
So now the situation with her is, that the kids (there are two of them now, and the youngest doesn't go to school yet) are looked after by the loving dadi, and the mum goes for work, and THEN goes for MPhil classes.. :S. Comes back at 10 or so...and when the kids run to her and all, she becomes impatient and obviously the kids then run away!!
:S:S ... I am sooo sad at this scenario. Considering they're a pretty well to do family (agar majboori hoti, to I would have understood, her leaving the kids). It's surprising really, what ''intellect'' does to you sometimes.
And I really believe its our totally mirrored-upon-secular-ideology societies ... hell bent on imitating the West, which has pressured some (not all) women to work, when its really not needed, and esp. when they have small kids. Only! ONLY to escape the comments by people (and society in general) such as ,
"Oh you stay at home??"
"Oh, you do nothing!!??"
"Oh lucky you! You dont do anything. You just stay at home!"
"Oh you don't have to do anything, MA you're just at home"
"Oh you're faarigh these days naa, you're at home!"