Thursday, April 15, 2010

An open question for all

Assalamualaikum

The past few days have been real hectic. The first exam was Quran -- and it is not easy to know word-to-word translation of an entire Surah!

(Omg I have a squirming baby in my arms, and I am typing this!! Sheesh!)

Khair. (uff yeh bacha!). The thing is that I have been wondering this thing, and would like to ask an honest opinion from anybody who reads this post .. (Muslims of course :P).

Question:

Do you think it is emotional blackmail (to oneself) if one has developed fikr-e-aakhirah (worries about the Hereafter - life is too short etc), and on the basis of that worry, one is willing to give up their career plans in the short-run, and try to acquire Islamic education (further)...?

This question stems from the previous posts' comments, and I had been curious to know this answer, because somehow, I had thought blackmailing is done by others to convince somebody of something. And in my case, it hasn't been others' pressure or anything. Just a teensy talk, and then mostly my own head :S. Only today, I was called ''brainwashed'' by somebody in the family :$. The question is, who has brainwashed me?? The only worry I have is of not knowing when we will pass away, and only on that basis, am I thinking along a different path to take in the short-term... *sigh*

So, answers please.

11 comments:

M. Shuaib Khan said...

:)

I won't use the word brainwashed AT ALL! That's plain wrong. The point I wanted to make was that make sure your decision isn't based on a temporary emotional feeling. To make sure that you later don't regret giving up the rest of the activities of life.

Point is, having developed the fikr of akhirah doesn't mean you dedicate yourself totally to the study of religion and compromise on your original ambitions. I for one would never be convinced that proper fikr of akhira require us to give up on our worldly ambitions. For me, everything, that means everything, is part of deen. Your MS, your job, your internships, your well behaved interaction with your colleagues, your dedication to your responsibilities and all. After all, that's what Quran was sent here for. To guide us in our "worldly life". It isn't just a book to help us secure top marks in the akhrah only.

Now, we need Islamic scholars, whom have deep knowledge of Quran, and can help the rest of us whose expertise are in different fields, with stuff that require indepth knowledge of Quran. Things like the masayal of nikah/wirasat etc.

Now ask yourself a question, do you want to be that scholar? Was that your original plan? Even if it wasn't, is your current wish to become one based on a solid stance? Something that you won't regret giving up the rest of your wishes for?

I say give your decision some time. If by then you still believe you want to go with it, by all means go. But if you don't, then rest assure that even that won't be a bad decision, you won't be giving up your fikr of akhirah.

I hope you got my point.

M. Shuaib Khan said...

Btw, whatever decision you make, make sure it's "your own" decision. You don't want anybody else to be responsible for your life. As said, "take control". And by this I mean, I claim no responsibility for any of your decisions. :P Take my talk only as my opinion. Not an ideological enforcement.

Ahmar said...

Do you think it is emotional blackmail (to oneself) if one has developed fikr-e-aakhirah (worries about the Hereafter - life is too short etc), and on the basis of that worry, one is willing to give up their career plans in the short-run, and try to acquire Islamic education (further)...?

hmm....this makes it sound that career plans (if it isn't becoming a religous scholar) are independent of deen..which would be wrong because as an ummah, we need people, all sorts of specialities, and religous education is one of them...Having said that, I also believe that every muslim should have adequate knowledge of their religion so that they can practise it in their lives, in whatever field they are...So unless you want to become a religous scholar, you should not give up things but instead, continue this learning of religion throughout along with whatever you do...And with the right intention and mindset, anything you do can be ibadah....
depending on the thread here, I can fill in more here , have to run now :P...

Uni said...

Um.. :)

Pata hay, this discussion isn't very fruitful. Simply because everybody's circumstance is different, and since you guys have entered the professional (academia or otherwise) fields, it is a very different perspective from 'that side' of the picture. I am somebody who hasn't 'stepped in it as yet'.. but who definitely planned to.

Lemme clarify things a leetle bit more.

To make sure that you later don't regret giving up the rest of the activities of life.
I don't intend (and never did) to give up completely on my plans, just postpone them. And since my MS is going to take a further 1.5 years, (and I can't begin teaching till this finishes), I still have a 1.5 year period in which I could either have done internships etc, or other things.

Now, we need Islamic scholars, whom have deep knowledge of Quran, and can help the rest of us whose expertise are in different fields, with stuff that require indepth knowledge of Quran. Things like the masayal of nikah/wirasat etc.

I agree. But tell me one thing. Which Islamic scholar do you see around yourself, who can answer this question?

Stem cells are cells that have the potential to divide and give rise to many different kinds of specialized cells that form the various body tissues. Scientist recently succeeded in identifying these cells, isolating them, and growing them to treat some diseases. What is the ruling for this?

Now, there are scholars who have given a ruling regarding this, but don't you think a scholar who has had a background in the sciences, as well as Fiqh would be able to answer better ????

Haven't you noticed that the Muslim scientists in the 8 to 14th century were well versed in the sciences as well as the Deen.. ?

Point is, it is possible to work out a balance between two different modes and subjects of study. Since it was possible in our history, it is possible today (woh alag baat hey keh koi kar nahi raha).. :S

Btw, whatever decision you make, make sure it's "your own" decision.

Insha Allah :) (the decision is 87% made waisay).. and thank you so very much for the pointers.

Now..

this makes it sound that career plans (if it isn't becoming a religous scholar) are independent of deen

No way. I would never say that. And if it seemed implied, then my apologies. The point I was trying to make was that I'm still in a position where I can walk with one step on one road, and the other on another road. And this is desperately needed today. (as are doctors, nurses, programmers, designers etc).

Another thing.. :D.. Two years don't make anybody a scholar seriously :P --

If there is one gap I have seen in society, it's that religious scholars have no inclination towards the sciences, and scientists have no deen knowledge. What happens then is that the madrassah community looks at a scientist like they're aliens, and the scientific community looks at the madressah folks like they're pata nahi kia.. :P

Khair :P. I don't know how much you got my point, but I did get yours :)

Thanks both for dropping by!

M. Shuaib Khan said...

You've nailed it. Excellent!

Uni said...

Erm.. nailed what? :P. But thanks anyway.

Ahmar said...

ahan, I am all for getting more religious education and knowledge, something that lacks so desperately these days ...And since you are already doing an MS and as you said you can't be teaching till then, and if you aren't talking about giving up anything (which I thought was implied earlier but now it sounds more clear from your previous comment that you meant a balance...), then its just great....if one can...:)

MAK said...

u will be a better teacher but with different speciality.
its up to u to decide what u want to become.
A. Teacher with good religious knowledge.
B. Teacher with good practical knowledge.
C. Both.

Third option might be too hard but its still there. Decide keeping ur inclination in mind. religion or practical skill.

And its not blackmailing !!!!

Uni said...

@Ahmar
Yep. I think so too. (although, second thoughts aren't helping!)

@MAK
Nice options :P. Option A makes me look like a fool. Option B sounds more 'logical' and Option C seems impossible. Sigh.

Thanks for the pointers anyway :)

Shuaib said...

Is such a course on smaller scaller offered for males some where in Isb? By smaller scale I mean 1-2 hours a day or something.

Uni said...

@Shuaib
I'm not very sure about Isb. But I think these people offer courses:

www.tanzeem.org/quraniccircles/Punjab%20Region.asp