Sunday, February 28, 2010

Of Seerah: Lessons :)


The long weekend (Fri, Sat and Sun) has passed by in a blur. This always happens when sis is here. Tomorrow, she leaves early morning (Insha Allah) and I'm already feeling low about it. I wonder when this will cease... the low-ness. It's been almost two years!

Khair *sadly*.. this is life. Got to deal with it.

Lately, I've been reading this book called 'Seerat-e-Ayesha' --  written by S Suleman Nadvi. The aim behind reading this book was to form a complete and correct picture of the sahaabia, who had been a close companion of the Holy Prophet (Peace be upon him), and had lived nearly 40 years after his death, spreading the teachings of Islam. What I have been discovering in that book, is something very very different from my expectations. I had expected a personality who will be impossible to follow -- all I, a lowly idiot on the planet, will be able to do will be to read about her halaat-e-zindagi and then, that's it. 

:) Things turned out to be different. Hazrat Ayesha (May Allah be Pleased with her) had been very young when she got married, but her intelligence, memory and sharp mind skills proved her maturity far beyond normal girls her age. Certain characteristics of hers prove to be a huge lesson for all the muslim women out there, who aspire to be at least a fraction of what the Mothers of Believers were - Some characteristics made me quite pleased .. , and I'll tell you why.

1. There were times when Hazrat Ayesha used to make small breads out of flour, keep it to cool and .. :D .. go to sleep. The neighbour's goat used to enter the house (there were no doors, only a curtain at the entrance), and eat those pieces of bread, which was the only dinner. (How utterly cute :D). So you see, clumsiness is HUMAN. (I should narrate this to my mum). Yeah, the lesson here is that when she woke up one day, and saw the goat merrily eating her hard-worked upon food, she ran after the goat with a stick, and the Holy Prophet (pbuh) stopped her, saying that the goat was a neighbours' and we're not supposed to hurt neighbours, so that includes their pets as well!

2. Hazrat Ayesha used to do everything in the house herself. For a long time, she had no helper in the house. The house was just a small room, nothing big - with a few utensils for dining purposes, and basic necessities of life. Nothing else.. :S... And she didn't complain about this either. It's a huge reminder for people like me, who have ample comfort in life, and yet complain when asked to do some housework :S:S:S

3. There are very few narrations on Hazrat Ayesha's beauty. There are quite a few traditions on the beauty of other wives of the Holy Prophet -- saheeh ahadith I mean. Yet, she was the most favourite wife out of all. Why so?
The reasons outlined in this book, and verified through Ahadith are Hazrat Ayesha's above-normal intelligence, and sharp brain. These were characteristics far more important than the outwardly factors. And that is another huge lesson for people who take surface beauty as integral factor, and leave the rest.. 

4. Hazrat Ayesha's immediate acceptance of whatever and whenever she did something not very right... both at the time of the Holy Prophet and after he passed away. It has been narrated that because of the incident of Jang-e-Jamal, she used to regret it so so so very much that she used to cry till her head garment would get soaked... :S ... How many of us are THIS sharminda, when we do something not intentionally wrong, but still that act produces an undesired result? Heck, we're not even sharminda (regretful) when we DO do something wrong, intentionally!

These are big lessons for Muslim women and men out there. Apology is the best remedy. The mind is way more important than physical beauty. There is no shame in doing housework and it is okay to be clumsy - if one doesn't make a habit of it.. :D. I think I've found my....


Anonymous said...

nice role model u ve got.

Absolutely liked whatever u wrote about her..

I would recommend a book for u to read, "Early Battles of Islam", and "Muslim conquest of Spain"..
In book 1, u will find ladies even going out in battle fields, and book no 2, u will read interesting accounts of bravery of our Muslim Armies after Prophet SAAW.

Uni said...


Thanks for dropping by! The inspiration is awesome, really. And yes, I will look up the books you mentioned Insha Allah.

There was this lady called Umme Ammarah. The Prophet (Saw) quoted about her, that on the Battle of Uhad, wherever I looked, here or there, I saw Umme Ammarah, fighting for me. She was one of the bravest ladies -- another amazing role model.. (for, at least women shouldn't deem themselves 'weak').

Thank you for the suggestions :)

Anonymous said...

yep.. Read "Early Battles of Islam" for more accounts...
I infact 'forcefully' read it, but after reading, i realised that it as worth reading book.. and definitely u gonna like it.

Uni said...


Anonymous said...

han.. uss mein sey exam mein aik sawal aana tha.. :| so, yeah, forcefully..

Uni said...

Oh.. weird. Never thought this book was in any curriculum here.